Spiritual Self-Sabotage
Through both, my observations and experiences of over 30 years as a Christian and over the last 20 in ministry, I have come to conclude that one of the greatest problems we have in our quest for spiritual success, health and freedom is a problem that is brought on by one, single solitary thing caused by one person and can be resolved by one person alone!
The person causing the problem is not the devil (although surely he certainly does all he can to add fuel to the fires) and the problem is not commonly thought of as sin! Yet this thing is, without a doubt, the single greatest result of pride and produces the worst possible result in a Christian’s life - - that result being bitterness!
Bitterness is an awful malady! It is barely noticeable at first … in fact it is usually noticed by other people before it is realized by the person who is becoming bitter! Bitterness is a spiritual sickness that, much like a physical sickness, taints everything else that we do!
Have you ever noticed when you get one of those really nasty 24 – 48 hour viruses (you know the kind that causes you to lose fluid like substances from every possible exit route from your body), that absolutely nothing, NOTHING tastes good? Even saltine crackers taste nasty from the vomit that keeps leaving your mouth! To make matters worse, you get weaker and weaker because you cannot bear to take in any nourishment for not only does it taste bad; your sick body rejects it in the most violent and grotesque fashions!
In the end, bitterness is like that! It causes everything that comes into your life to have a “nasty taste” to it and your soul rejects what is meant to nourish you! The difference is that unlike the virus that made you sick, bitterness does not just run its course and then you get all better! No, bitterness is far worse and it does not just get better.
The problem with bitterness is two-fold: First, it does not come upon us all at once (like I said, it is usually barely noticeable to begin with) and second, (UNLIKE a virus that we don’t know we have been exposed to) bitterness is totally preventable, and it is totally our own fault that we become bitter!
Bitterness is really brought on by one thing: Our refusal to follow and adhere to the
Biblical practice of forgiveness! Notice I said the
BIBLICAL practice of forgiveness - - not pop-psychology’s practice or sociology’s practice or any other carnally minded formulated practice called forgiveness - - but the
BIBLICAL practice of forgiveness.
In fact, I am convinced that most Christians are not willing to forgive because they have never been taught the
BIBLICAL practice of forgiveness! Now by this I mean that BOTH PARTIES necessary to the forgiveness process have not been taught the Biblical practice and principles of forgiveness. So obviously, if one has not been taught how to do something, chances are they will never be able to do that thing correctly or completely!
Unfortunately, ignorance of how to forgive does not prevent bitterness from developing in a person’s life. In fact, ignorance compounds the progress of bitterness because with ignorance comes the inability to stop and reverse its development!
What is more sad is a Christian that HAS been taught the Biblical practice/process of forgiveness who either neglects or refuses to practice forgiveness in just one situation and bitterness begins to take hold and from that point on forgiveness is practiced less and less while bitterness accelerates!
If neglecting or refusing to practice forgiveness is not self-sabotage spiritually speaking then I cannot imagine what is! In fact, other than intentional, outright rebellious sin, I can think of nothing else that a person can do to sabotage his/her own spiritual condition! Of course, sometimes the matter of not forgiving is just that – rebellion.
Not being able to experience forgiveness for our own sins then compounds our bitterness against others because we cannot give what we do not ourselves have! And yet, we don’t have forgiveness because we failed (for whatever reason) to forgive those who have trespassed against (wounded, hurt, offended, damaged, bruised, are indebted to, have stolen from or robbed and/or inflicted pain on) us!
Just how is it that failure to forgive, causes bitterness? In two main ways I think: First, the offense never heals thus is always tender, a source of irritation/pain and never goes away. Second and I really think this is the worst by far: We lose our fellowship with God because we don’t experience forgiveness for our own sins and THAT will produce a sense of hopelessness like little else will! If you take away a person’s hope, you are left with a person that becomes increasingly angry, harsh, hurtful and even violent in some way or other - - in other words, bitter!
Before moving on, let’s take a look at a couple things about forgiveness:
First: Forgiveness is the solution to anger. Or to say it this way, forgiveness is anger resolved.
Second: Unforgiveness then, is anger left unresolved, or said this way, unforgiveness is unresolved anger!
CONTINUED NEXT ISSUE
Many Blessings!
Dr. Timothy