Developing a better "sense of self", begins with identifying the parts of YOU that you are less happy with. 

And did you know?  A fundamental purpose of life is to evolve - to become more.

Ignoring your inner urging for self-growth, means that you need to spend a lot of time, money, and effort focusing on things OUTSIDE of yourself.  Hence ... the stuff you "need" to buy & have, the position of power you "need" to uphold, and the facade that you work so hard to keep to show others how important you are.

All that you really need... is to be happy with YOU. 

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Dorothy Ratusny, M.A., (C). OACCPP., PhD (Candidate).
Psychotherapist, Author, Speaker